As the narcissistic sociopath ages, his mask becomes more transparent, easier to see through. Why? His circle of friends has diminished significantly. Possibly as few as one. There are no “old” friends remaining. Even his family has distanced themselves. When he does meet new people, he’s desperate for immediate acceptance in order to begin his manipulations and be provided with fresh narcissistic supply.
A new victim must wonder, “Why does this great guy have no friends? How could one person have such bad luck with people?”
Hopefully, the new victim will not say, “I can fix him. I can make his life better.” Hopefully, the new victim will see these questions and concerns as red flags that this “great guy” ain’t so great. This “great guy” shit on people. This “great guy” doesn’t have friends because no one likes being around him. And for VERY good reasons.
His charm is worn. His jokes (the same racist and sexist jokes he’s been telling for eons) aren’t funny. His repeated jabs at people’s clothes, cars, homes, jobs, and even their children are indicative of his own hatred for himself. His heart is dark and closed.
Would you be proud to call such an asshole your son? Then why would you want to call him your boyfriend, husband, or father of your children? You wouldn’t. No one would.
Time is not on the narcissistic sociopath’s side. (Cue the violins!) But time IS on our side, the side of good people who are interested in living and loving other good people.
Vow this New Year’s 2013 to nurture the goodness that exists in you. Vow to do good deeds for yourself and others every day. It could be as simple as listening to someone who is struggling and saying, “I understand.” You have no idea how much those two simple words can help transform a person’s outlook.
Happy New Year! Peace! Namaste!