The Intelligence of Anxiety

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I love editing for Elephant Journal. It seems each and every article I am assigned somehow relates to this blog and everyone who follows it. The latest article I edited over the weekend relates to our anxieties.

I think you would all agree that understanding, recognizing and dealing with the anxieties in the toxic relationship really screwed with our minds.

Good news! That’s what anxiety is supposed to do. Our anxieties were a warning sign that something was not right! How we dealt with these anxieties is another story.

Below is a short intro to the article with a link to the rest of the story. Enjoy!

The Intelligence of Anxiety. ~ Ian Anderson for Elephant Journal

I recently read an article linking high levels of anxiety with a high IQ, which made me think, “What is the intelligence of our anxiety?”

To better explore this topic, it is essential to understand what anxiety is and how it works.

Understanding Our Anxiety defines anxiety as, “A feeling of worry, nervousness, or unease, typically about an imminent event or something with an uncertain outcome.”

This is a relatively good definition, and something that I am certain almost all of us can relate to. I would add that the frustrating aspect of anxiety is that it’s intrusive, preventing us from accomplishing what we want from our lives.

Not only does anxiety manifest highly undesirable emotional responses, we often respond in physical ways: we begin to sweat, our stomachs churn and suddenly we can’t think or speak clearly.

Our ability to feel this anxiety evolved for a reason. It kept us alive. The problem today is that our anxiety often occurs in the face of unrealistic, or in the absence of, true threats.

So what do we do about it? Let us first explore our negative coping patterns. Continue reading.

Women Who Love Psychopaths Cover by Sandra L. Brown

Spotlight: Relational Harm Reduction and Public Psychopathy Education

Women Who Love Psychopaths Cover by Sandra L. BrownWhen I come across another blogger or author or advocate who is actively bringing awareness to others about pathology, psychopaths, relational harm, abuse, recovery and healing on a regular and frequent basis, I share my discovery. I re-blog or re-tweet or write a Facebook status update on my book page dedicated to that person or organization.

For several months, I have been highly influenced and motivated by the work and research of:

The Institute for Relational Harm Reduction and Public Psychopathy Education (The Institute)

Sandra L. BrownThe Institute is lead by CEO and founder, Sandra L. Brown, M.A. Sandra has over 25 years of experience as a psychoanalyst and has written several books, including Women Who Love Psychopaths and How to Spot a Dangerous ManRead Sandra’s full bio...

Sandra’s partner at The Institute is Jennifer Young, LMHC. Jennifer’s career spans more than 19 years. Read Jennifer’s full bio

The following is taken from The Institute’s website:

The Institute is a rapidly growing body of people seeking to impact public education surrounding issues related to pathology, personality disorders, and psychopathy.

This growing body are survivors—women, men and their children who have sustained psychological injury because of someone else’s pathology. The only way to give meaning to the horror they lived is to find a ‘voice’ from which they teach others.

I recommend:

Namaste! ~Paula

CU Psychopathy Research

Feedback from victims of Psychopaths and Cluster Bs needed for doctoral research!

CU Psychopathy ResearchPh.D. candidate, Courtney Humeny, contacted me directly with a simple request to help recruit participants for her doctoral research dissertation.

She is “looking for people who have been victimized by a potential psychopath, sociopath, narcissist, or any individual demonstrating abusive, criminal, or antisocial traits as a family member (i.e., spouse) or by a significant other (i.e., dating relations, common law, etc) for a study examining emotion in victims. A person who possesses such characteristics often has many shallow relationships, lacks empathy, lies pathologically, is superficially charming, and fails to take responsibility for their actions.”

Courtney’s research may lead to real changes in how victims are perceived and treated by family court, law enforcement and counselors.

Please consider participating. Follow the link provided in her message below for more details. You may also contact her directly:

Hello. I am a PhD student at Carleton University. I am conducting a study on victims of psychopaths and domestic violence for my dissertation. I am looking for people who are interested in taking part in surveys looking at victimization experiences, emotion regulation, resilience, PTSD symptoms, and psychosomatic symptoms. For more information about the study please go to the following .

If you have any questions or concerns please email me at

~Courtney Humeny

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