Stories 16 and 17: Patricia and Quinn #survivorstories @commdiginews

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BETHESDA, Maryland, October 16, 2014 — Patricia* is a survivor of domestic violence and pathological abuse living and recovering in The United States.

Before the relationship, I was happy and full of life, looking for my one and only to share a happy life. During my relationship, I became sick and mentally ill. I had a nervous breakdown. I started blaming myself for everything and hating myself. Now that the relationship is over, I am starting to recover and heal. My therapist is saving me; that’s for sure. Read more… 


BETHESDA, Maryland, October 17, 2014 — Quinn* is a survivor of domestic violence who is now enjoying living a fulfilled life in The United States.

Unfortunately, I had several relationships that were abusive; I just did not know it and/or could not stop myself from repeating the same behavior with the same type of partners. It took many years of repeated circumstances before I was able to be strong enough to say ‘never again’. Read more… 


Each day during the month of October, column author Paula Carrasquillo will feature a story written by a survivor of domestic violence. At the end of October, a compilation of all stories will be available for free as an e-book.

*All names have been changed to protect the survivor and the survivor’s family and friends.

Naomi’s story: “On more than one occasion, I imagined killing him.” #dvawareness @commdiginews

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October 14, 2014 – Naomi’s story: “On more than one occasion, I imagined killing him.”


BETHESDA, Maryland, October 14, 2014 — Naomi* is a survivor of domestic violence and pathological abuse living, raising her children and recovering in The United States.

Before the relationship, I was on a great path. Picking up new hobbies and skills, working out regularly, eating healthy, caring for and bonding fully with my then one-and-a-half-year-old son.

Then I met him. Read more


Each day during the month of October, column author Paula Carrasquillo will feature a story written by a survivor of domestic violence. At the end of October, a compilation of all stories will be available for free as an e-book.

*All names have been changed to protect the survivor and the survivor’s family and friends.

Story #11 – Katherine’s story: Surviving pathological and intimate partner abuse #dvawareness #survival #recovery

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October 11, 2014: Katherine’s story: Surviving pathological and intimate partner abuse

BETHESDA, Maryland, October 11, 2014 — Katherine* is a survivor of pathological and intimate partner abuse living, working as a nurse and recovering in The United States.

Before getting together with Scott, I was happy, trusting, confident and joyful. During the relationship, I was confused, distrustful and anxious. Now that it is over, I feel depressed, lonely, violated and still confused. It sucks.

I met Scott at work. He is a doctor; I am a nurse. (I’ve now discovered through research that these professions are quite typical for pathological relationships). I knew him for three years before we started dating. Read more…


Each day during the month of October, column author Paula Carrasquillo will feature a story written by a survivor of domestic violence. At the end of October, a compilation of all stories will be available for free as an e-book.

*All names have been changed to protect the survivor and the survivor’s family and friends.

Ellen’s story: “I was always afraid he would rape me, hit me and be even crueler.”

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October 5, 2014 – Ellen’s story: “I was always afraid he would rape me, hit me and be even crueler.”

BETHESDA, Maryland, October 5, 2014 — Ellen* is a survivor of intimate partner and sociopath abuse who lives and is studying to become a doctor in the United States.


Before I met my boyfriend, I was living in the suburbs of Philadelphia. I was a smart, funny, outgoing and independent girl. I had a car and registered for college. I was working and paying for myself. I had had a few instances of drug and alcohol problems and was actively keeping myself out of trouble.

Just before I met him, my grandmother slipped into a coma from diabetes. I was locked out of my house by a controlling aunt. I found myself needing to live with my mother, who suffered from schizophrenia. Read more…


Each day during the month of October, column author Paula Carrasquillo will feature a story written by a survivor of domestic violence. At the end of October, a compilation of all stories will be available for free as an e-book.

*All names have been changed to protect the survivor and the survivor’s family and friends.

Cara’s story: “He was diagnosed as a sociopath. I still wanted to help him.”

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October 3, 2014 – Cara’s Story of domestic abuse: “He was diagnosed as a sociopath. I still wanted to help him.”

BETHESDA, Maryland, October 3, 2014 — Cara* is a survivor of domestic violence who lives, works and is training to be a yoga teacher in the United States.

I was just getting out of a marriage when Michael* entered my life. He was giving…giving…giving gifts: sweatshirts, concert tickets, inviting me and my daughter on vacations, giving me money and paying off my car. It seemed, at the time, that he was my knight in shining armor. I loved being showered with what I thought was love. Read more…


Each day during the month of October, column author Paula Carrasquillo will feature a story written by a survivor of domestic violence. At the end of October, a compilation of all stories will be available for free as an e-book.

*All names have been changed to protect the survivor and the survivor’s family and friends.

My open letter to the Baltimore Ravens @Ravens

Full story available on CDN: http://www.commdiginews.com/life/open-letter-to-the-baltimore-ravens-from-a-survivor-of-domestic-violence-23302/


riceDear Ravens Organization:

I am a native of Maryland and grew up in the small, mountain town of Cumberland in the western, Appalachian region of the state. I was an honors student and cheerleader. High school football was a major part of the community connectivity, and like many in my home town, I loved the energy of any given Friday night in the fall under the Greenway Avenue stadium lights rooting for my fellow classmates on the field.

When I was a senior, I dated a local football star, who was a member of the 1988 High School Class 2A Maryland Championship Football team. I thought he had integrity and pride. After all, it had been ingrained in me that star athletes possess a high degree of integrity and determination and respect for themselves and others. How else could these players be as successful as individuals and as a team if their morals were anything less?

Within a few short months of dating this 18-year-old boy, he beat me, threatened my life by pointing a gun at me, smothered me, tried breaking my arm behind my back while I was driving on the local interstate, kicked me from behind as I tried running from him down residential streets to safety, and raped me. Continue reading on CDN…


Read more at http://www.commdiginews.com/life/open-letter-to-the-baltimore-ravens-from-a-survivor-of-domestic-violence-23302/#Vceq3TUB5FvSHUiD.99

My first abuser is PROOF that abusers DO NOT change and only get worse

Part of the reason I had to speak out about the boy in my story, the sociopath, two years ago is because 24 years ago there was another abuser who I remained silent about due to feelings of shame, guilt, and embarrassment. His name is David Leo Cassady, and he hasn’t stopped hurting and harming women, children, men or the police since:

On Friday May 23, 2014, at 2:55 pm, Cumberland City Police Officer’s responded to a private residence at the 100 block of Pine Avenue for a trespassing complaint. Upon arrival contact was made with the owner of the residence who advised that David Cassady, age 42 of Cumberland, showed up at his residence uninvited and refused to leave. Officers advised Cassady that he needed to leave but he refused to do so and became argumentative. He was placed in custody and transported to the Cumberland City Police Department where he was processed and criminally cited for Disorderly Conduct. He was released pending trial at the Allegany County District Court.

On Wednesday May 28, 2014, at 12:32 pm, Cumberland City Police Officers were dispatched to a disturbance on Queen City Drive. Investigation into this matter revealed that David Cassady was inside the Union Rescue Mission and engaged into an argument with a staff member. Cassady proceeded to throw food around the dining room area and allegedly spat on a staff member. Cassady began to cause a disturbance outside the establishment as he was disturbing the peace of others in the area as he cursed at the officers. Cassady was placed in custody and during the arresting process, he kicked an officer. Cassady was transported to the Cumberland City Police Department where he was processed and served. He was taken to the Allegany County District Court Commissioners Office for a bond hearing and held on a $8,500.00 dollar bond at the Allegany County Detention Center.

When is this city, Cumberland, Md., going to do something about this person, this thing, before he kills someone?

I was one of his first female victims 24 years ago when I was just 18 and he was 18. The police in Cumberland refused to do anything about his threats and attacks against me then and allowed this psychopath to spend two decades terrorizing and tormenting women, children, men and the police. He’s been in and out of the prison system and has left many victims in his wake, many who suffer from trauma and continued fear that this disgusting example of a human being is going to come and kill them or their loved ones.

Unfortunately, I suffered alone for 22 years in the aftermath of his abuse. I remained silent, because I naively thought I was smart enough and strong enough to overcome  the trauma of being smothered, threatened with a gun, kicked, punched, and made to believe I should be ashamed of myself for being raised with loving parents. I learned the hard way, after years of depression, eating disorders, alcohol abuse, and my own arrest, that I am not super woman and that I needed help.

Do you have any idea how many victims this piece of trash has harmed in 24 years!? Many have warned me not to speak out. Many fear that he will come after me and my family. Well, my family and I are not afraid of this coward. Not anymore. Cowards like him only go after people he thinks are weak and easily scared. I’m not afraid. I’m not scared.

If you are or have ever been a victim of David Leo Cassady, come forward. It’s time the city of Cumberland starts focusing on real criminals who have the greatest potential to commit murder and render many of its residents fearful and frozen. Violence committed by a single person over and over again has a cascading and rippling effect in entire communities.

If you are reading this and have been a victim of domestic violence and feel trapped and unable to escape the daily torture and torment, you’re not to blame and you’re not alone. Contact the Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233 and consider reading my latest story about why we stay. You may be surprised by what you discover:

http://www.commdiginews.com/life/why-janay-rice-and-other-domestic-violence-victims-dont-leave-18179/

Namaste!
~Paula

WTF?: Maryland State’s Attorney’s office protects “intimate” rapists

Dude, WTF?The Washington Times Communities
Maryland State’s Attorney’s office protects “intimate” rapists.

Help Angela and other rape victims receive the justice they deserve. We need to empower ourselves to be heard and not fear speaking out against this evil. There is something wrong with a society that keeps blaming the victim and forcing the victim to change and forcing the victim to prevent crimes against them from happening.

A crime has been committed, and it seems the perpetrator is getting off in more ways than one. WTF is wrong with us?

The Washington Times Communities: Maryland State’s Attorney’s office protects “intimate” rapists.

Maryland prefers prosecuting “stranger” rape. And torturing and killing cats is okay, too.

AngelaWarning: This post details an actual rape and may trigger victims/survivors and elicit strong emotions in everyone and anyone regardless of experience.

Sign the petition now!

If you think rape is only something that happens between people who don’t know each other, stop reading and go back to whatever it was you were doing. This petition won’t change your mind. So, save yourself time. Just stop reading now.

  • It seems Maryland doesn’t consider rape by a spouse or intimate partner to be a crime worthy of prosecution.
  • It seems Maryland thinks forcing your penis into your wife or girlfriend’s vagina or anus is intimacy.
  • It seems Maryland thinks such a case is too much of a “he said; she said” battle.
  • It seems Maryland thinks the burden of proof is too high even though there is a living victim and a living offender both available to provide testimony.
  • It seems Maryland doesn’t think 12 people would be convinced.
  • It seems Maryland thinks the victim is allowing the death (murder) of her cat to cloud her judgment.

It seems to me Maryland prefers to protect abusers and allow victims of domestic violence to “deal with it” and “get over it” and “move on.” I wonder what the Maryland Attorney General would think if this happened to one of their own?

Angela contacted me personally asking me to share her story and encourage everyone to sign her petition. She is the victim of a brutal rape and the owner of a cat allegedly tortured and murdered by her alleged rapist. She is seeking justice asking each of you to sign her petition so her alleged rapist can be judged by a jury of his peers and NOT by the office of the Maryland Attorney General in Montgomery County Maryland located in Rockville, Maryland.

This petition will be delivered to:
Douglas Gansler, Maryland Attorney General
Sherri Koch, Assistant State Attorney

Sign now! Maryland Attorney General: Put Angela’s rapist on trial

Angela, 33, was brutally raped, both orally and anally, by her then boyfriend. Her account is below.

He grabbed my head and forced his penis into my mouth. Previously he had rammed his penis into my anus as I screamed in agony. After he repeatedly raped me, he commented that we had more sex that week than we had in a long time.

Angela found the courage to report her rapes to local police. However, her attempts to seek justice have been put on hold, as Maryland State Attorneys are unwilling to put Angela’s rapist on trial. They typically only prosecute ‘stranger’ rapes and have moved to dismiss the case.

This is not good enough. According to RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network), approximately two thirds of rapes were completed by someone known to the victim. There should be no impunity granted to men who rape women under the guise of a relationship.

We call on the Maryland State Attorneys to proceed with a trial and give Angela a chance of seeing justice.

This could happen to your daughter, your granddaughter, your sister, your mother. Would you want the accused brought to justice? Sign the petition. Bring a rapist and animal abuser and murderer to trial. Let his peers make the decision, not a bunch of people in suits who seem bothered by this business of protecting an innocent woman and others in similar situations.

Sign the petition now!

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