“Unashamed Voices” will expose sociopaths in our midst #ebook #preorder

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The ebook collection of survivor stories is available for pre-order!

Last year, nearly 50 readers and survivors submitted their survivor stories to me. Last month, I edited and published a story a day to my Communities Digital Column. This month, I compiled all of the edited and previously-published stories (plus two previously unpublished stories) into a working draft for an ebook. Yesterday, I designed the cover and uploaded the draft to Kindle Direct Publishing for pre-order status review. Today, the pre-order status was approved, and now everyone can pre-order their copy before the release date of December 31, 2014.

As promised, the book will also be available for FREE upon release next month. The purpose of the pre-order period is to generate interest and profit in hopes of being afforded the opportunity to also make the book available in soft copy.

I thank everyone who visits this blog for giving me the strength, courage and determination I needed to dedicate to this project, which has consumed me for nearly the past 20 months. Our voices would not be able to build the stength and momentum they have without the support we give to eachother. XOXO

Book Description:

“Unashamed Voices: True Stories Written by Survivors of Domestic Violence, Rape and Fraud – Exposing Sociopaths in Our Midst”

Not everyone moves from a place of care and respect for themselves and others, because not everyone has (1) a conscience; (2) the ability to feel remorse; and (3) the ability to tap into affective empathy–the type of empathy that allows one to see and feel a situation from another’s perspective. People lacking these qualities are referred to as sociopaths, psychopaths and narcissists. They exist everywhere in society, including our homes where their toxic and parasitic lifestyles are destroying families, children and communities every single day.

This collection of 33 true stories from across the globe written by survivors of toxic and abusive relationships sets out to expose the unchallenged pathological personalities and behaviors of psychopaths, sociopaths and narcissists. These personal accounts will dispel the myths surrounding domestic violence and intimate partner abuse and have you questioning what you thought you knew about crimes being committed behind closed doors. You will also understand the impact to victims and survivors and start gaining an understanding of why so many remain silent and that most, if not all survivors, are walking around undiagnosed and/or under diagnosed with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), anxiety, depression and other debilitating conditions resulting from the physical, emotional and spiritual abuse they endured and continue to relive in the aftermath.

With greater awareness and education, victims and survivors of pathological abuse at the hands of sociopaths, psychopaths and narcissists will have a greater chance of experiencing justice and a greater chance of protecting potential victims who are the future targets of these manipulative and malignant criminals hiding behind the false and delusional facade of moral righteousness and victimization.

If you are interested in being a part of the solution to one day see an end to domestic violence, rape and fraud, read this book and pass it on to anyone and everyone you know who has been or is currently being impacted by a sociopath, psychopath or narcissist. With 1 in 25 people estimated to be a sociopath, the chance that you know someone affected by an individual with a pathological personality disorder is extremely high. Allow the many voices of truth in these pages open your eyes to the answers behind the senseless acts committed against you, your loved ones and/or your friends.

Paula Carrasquillo, MA
November 18, 2014

http://www.amazon.com/Unashamed-Voices-Survivors-Domestic-Sociopaths-ebook/dp/B00PUMN6HW/ref=sr_1_2?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1416430397&sr=1-2&pebp=1416430399152

From Hurt to Healed – Conversations with Kim and Paula

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We hope to meet soon for a real side-by-side picture moment!!

It is with great enthusiasm to announce that I will be partnering with Kim Saeed, No Contact coach and writer of the narcissistic abuse survivor blog, Let me Reach, as we come together to launch a BlogTalk Radio show for Narcissist/Sociopath/Psychopath and Domestic abuse survivors. Our show is supported and promoted by Communities Digital News, LLC.

While we both share similar experiences as abuse survivors and have a common outlook as it relates to understanding abuse dynamics, recovery, and healing, our show serves as a symbiotic resource for survivors. Kim shares her expertise as a No Contact coach, how codependency and inner child healing are crucial to the recovery process, and her ongoing education as a spiritual healer. I offer listeners and callers my passion and experience as a published author, adult educator, certified yoga teacher, and integrative health and nutrition coach.

Topics that will be covered on our show will include: No Contact (before, during, and after), the role of nutrition and exercise in recovery, spirituality as the cornerstone of healing, the mind-body-spirit connection, FAQs, recovery from codependency, inner child healing, rewriting our narrative beliefs, and alternative modalities and therapies to healing and recovery. We will also be interviewing niche celebrities and experts, as well as holding Question & Answer sessions with listeners.

However, none of this would be possible without you, our faithful and dedicated readers and followers. We would love to get your input on what you’d like to hear covered on our show, as well as days and times that would work best for listeners who are interested in sharing survival stories and live Q&As. Please take part in our survey below:

Take Our Survey & Share Your Ideas!

Our expected launch date is December 2014/January 2015. Please check back often so you don’t miss out on the fun!

Namaste!
Paula Carrasquillo, author of Escaping the Boy: My Life with a Sociopath

Survivor story #31 – Fawn’s story: Increased sociopath awareness and education helps us all

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Fawn’s story: Increased sociopath awareness and education helps us all

“I thought it was work, stress or that my success was bothering him. I remember becoming an uglier version of myself; I had never yelled or been so angry before. He used a lot of hurtful words, speech and actions. I started to do the same, which was not my personality before him. It was a rollercoaster. The highs were so high; the lows were very low. He was constantly threatening to burn my clothes, listening to my voicemails, reading texts and cell records. He sabotaged my family vacations and any happy moment I had.” Read more.


Each day during the month of October, column author Paula Carrasquillo will feature a story written by a survivor of domestic violence. At the end of October, a compilation of all stories will be available for free as an e-book.

*All names have been changed to protect the survivor and the survivor’s family and friends.

Survivor Story #30 – Eva’s story: Lies, theft and extreme love of material possessions and status

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Eva’s story: Lies, theft and extreme love of material possessions and status

“After being in the new apartment for almost a year he proposed to me. The way he proposed was sick. He is from Iran and claims he came to The United States by himself when he was 17. He also stated that he had criminal charges for possession of marijuana and that he could get deported on his court date. I said that I did not know if I was ready to marry him and then he said that he could just pay someone else to marry him. I thought that it was extremely rude for him to say that, but I did not want to have to live with him getting deported just because I did not marry him.” Read more.


Each day during the month of October, column author Paula Carrasquillo will feature a story written by a survivor of domestic violence. At the end of October, a compilation of all stories will be available for free as an e-book.

*All names have been changed to protect the survivor and the survivor’s family and friends.

Story #29 – Dana’s story: Cognitive dissonance is a measurable sign of abuse

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Dana’s story*: Cognitive dissonance is a measurable sign of abuse

“I was in this relationship from the age of 15 to 50. So before the relationship, I would say that I was an open, enthusiastic and loving person. By the time the relationship ended, I was suffering from chronic depression and needed lots of therapy. In between, I became a loving mother and a freelance writer and newspaper reporter. I often wonder how much more I could have accomplished had I had a supportive spouse.” Read more.


Each day during the month of October, column author Paula Carrasquillo will feature a story written by a survivor of domestic violence. At the end of October, a compilation of all stories will be available for free as an e-book.

*All names have been changed to protect the survivor and the survivor’s family and friends.

Survivor stories 25, 26, 27 and 28: Zoe, Alice, Beverly and Christina #SeeDV #abuse

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October 25, 2014 – Zoe’s story: “The relationship absorbed me; I was hypnotised by it.”*

October 26, 2014- Alice’s story: Leave abuse; it is not worth the anguish and loss of yourself

October 27, 2014 – Beverly’s story: Lies, manipulation and emotional abuse

October 28, 2014 – Christina’s story: Building up after being broken down by abuse


Each day during the month of October, column author Paula Carrasquillo will feature a story written by a survivor of domestic violence. At the end of October, a compilation of all stories will be available for free as an e-book.

*All names have been changed to protect the survivor and the survivor’s family and friends.

Letter from author and advocate Joyce M. Short: Making rape by fraud a crime in every state

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Dear Paula,

This week, I’ve identified the current status of rape by fraud law in Idaho and Texas on my blog. I’ll be adding 2 new states each Monday and Thursday. Once all the states are identified, I’ll be adding case law to the database. Rape by fraud, or sexual assault by fraud, is the crime that happens when someone defrauds you to engage you in sex, particularly when they use lies of identity to do so.

I have no specific order for my research, so if your participants have a particular state they want to know about, they should contact me on my blog at CARNAL ABUSE BY DECEIT – Can you spot a sexual predator?

I applaud the work you do to help victims recognize what happened to them and heal. As you know, sociopaths are not deterred by their conscience, they have none. The only way to stop them is by their fear of exposure, which they will lie their way around, or their fear of punishment. It’s my goal to ensure that punishment exists in the penal code of every state.

I am ecstatic that a NJ Assemblyman is determined to propose such a law, and will be using language I fashioned in the legislation he submits. It’s one of several states I’m working on, and would love to see more. It requires someone, or even better, multiple people, coming forward from their specific state. A victim came forward in NJ, and we are able to get traction in that state because she did so.

Your readers can contact me through my blog to let me know of their specific situation. I guarantee to protect their identity if doing so is their preference. I can tell them whether or not they have a case we can use to turn the tide. Doing so is easiest while the waves are rolling in, so it’s best that they contact me as soon as possible.

Sincerely Yours,
Joyce

Joyce M. Short
Twitter: @jm_short, #RapeByFraud
Facebook: Carnal Abuse by Deceit
Blog: CARNAL ABUSE BY DECEIT – Can you spot a sexual predator?

Survivor story 24 – Yvette’s story #seeDV #DVawareness

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Yvette’s story: Regain your perspective; you did not choose the toxic relationship


Each day during the month of October, column author Paula Carrasquillo will feature a story written by a survivor of domestic violence. At the end of October, a compilation of all stories will be available for free as an e-book.

*All names have been changed to protect the survivor and the survivor’s family and friends.

Submit your reflections, because together we CAN change things #dvawareness #recovery

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Share your reflections and thoughts on the survivor stories I have been sharing during October.

Complete the Reflections on Survivor Stories Form now!

All 31 stories will be compiled and published as a free ebook in mid-November. The hope is to receive a funding source to make the book available in print for distribution in libraries, shelters, law offices, schools and conferences.

Thoughtful feedback and reflections will speak to interest and need and as supporting data to present to potential funding sources.

Although many of us do not need numbers and statistics to be convinced more must be done to combat the injustices of abuse and its aftermath, numbers and statistics are an unfortunate reality necessary to persuade and convince those in a position of power and influence to care.

Follow the link attached to share your reflections. If you haven’t been keeping up with the stories, a link to the story archive is provided on the submission form.

Complete the Reflections on Survivor Stories Form now!

Thank you!!
~Paula Carrasquillo

Survivor stories 18, 19 and 20 – Rachel, Sofia and Teresa #DVawareness @commdiginews

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October 18, 2014 – Rachel’s story: Betrayal, abuse at the hands of a narcissist*

October 19, 2014 – Sofia’s advice on domestic violence: “Take off the blindfold. Knowledge is power.”

October 19, 2014 – Teresa’s story: He was a sociopath, not a good guy with a few bad demons


Each day during the month of October, column author Paula Carrasquillo will feature a story written by a survivor of domestic violence. At the end of October, a compilation of all stories will be available for free as an e-book.

*All names have been changed to protect the survivor and the survivor’s family and friends.

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