Featuring stories of abuse survival throughout October #dvawarenessmonth #healing #recovery


Last year, I invited readers and followers of my blog and Facebook page to submit their stories of abuse and survival for inclusion in my second book on healing and recovery. Much to my surprise, I received more than 60 responses and soon realized that these stories deserve a platform and book of their own.

I announced in August that I’d be editing and compiling the stories to be distributed as an e-book by October, Domestic Violence Awareness month. Since then, I spoke with my editors at Communities Digital News (CDN) about featuring a story-a-day from this compilation on my CDN column, Living Inside Out Loud.

My editors, Jacquie Kubin and Lisa Ruth, love the idea and gave me the green light to publish the stories to my CDN column beginning October 1.

So I’m asking everyone to support the effort and share and pass along each day’s story, which I will post links to daily from this blog. These stories are our stories. They speak to the disconnect and lack of understanding society in general has about domestic violence and emotional abuse and why it’s not always as simple as “just leaving.”

Thanks to the recent NFL domestic violence headlines, it’s fair to say that the majority of our friends and family are now aware that domestic violence exists and bleeds into our cities, neighborhoods and homes. What is not known is just how little is being done to support victims and their families faced with the daunting task of walking away from the abuse and then finding lasting support in the aftermath.

I’m hoping our stories will speak to the painful reality of this unknown

At the end of October, the complete e-book will be available for FREE through Amazon, and later a soft-copy version will be available to purchase.

Paula Carrasquillo, author of Escaping the Boy: My Life with a Sociopath

Alice Olive Paula

The Versatile Blogger Award and a few things about myself…

Paula's Pontifications receives the Versitile Blogger Award

It’s award season, for sure! I was very sick (I think it was the flu) for roughly 17 days straight recently. Hit with fever, body aches, and belly aches. I honestly didn’t think I was ever going to feel better. But I do, and the past few days I received encouraging and motivating feedback from the members of the blogging community. In addition to the two awards given to me last week, I was blessed with another one yesterday: The Versatile Blogger Award!

This award was passed on to my blog, Paula’s Pontifications, by Madeline Laughs of Spread Information ~ Stop the Madness blog, which “supports the fact that everyone has a story to tell.” Thank you, Madeline Laughs and Spread Information!

Rules of the Versatile Blogger Award:

  • Display the award logo on your blog. Check!
  • Thank and Link back to the person who nominated you. Check!
  • State 7 things about yourself. Check!
  • Nominate 15 bloggers for this award. Not in this post. I have many fellow bloggers to recognize and will dedicate a post later this week to them.
  • Notify those bloggers of the nomination by linking to one of their specific posts so that they get notified by ping back. See above.

Seven things about me:

  1. Alice Olive PaulaAs a young(er) woman, I was often told that I reminded people of Olive Oyl. More accurately, that I looked like Shelly Duvall’s character in the Popeye movie. Remember Popeye? Now, people tell me I look like Alice (Milla Jovovich) from the Resident Evil films. I don’t know. I don’t get it, really. How about you? Hehe!
  2. I love scary movies. Why? I have no idea, but I read that it may have something to do with my need to stimulate a part of my brain that is normally not stimulated. However, I admit I took a VERY long and much-needed break from them in my recent past. I wonder why?
  3. While a graduate student, I was also a member of AmeriCorps and worked at a community corrections facility (also referred to as a half-way house), where I taught male and female inmates GED, ABE, Life Skills, and Computer training, among other things. The organization I worked for also has a WordPress blog. Check it out!: Community Educational Outreach.
  4. As a little girl, I dreamed of becoming an architect. I wanted to design and build things. That dream didn’t come true. Instead, my studies focused on writing and communication and adult education. Today, I design and build (and sometimes rebuild) websites. They call it information architecture, and I love doing it and learning more about it every day.
  5. I play the saxophone and the violin. Well…I used to play them. I’d like to start practicing again and maybe take a few lessons along with my son. I think he wants to play the trombone.
  6. One day I would love to live near the mountains and the sea at the same time. I have lived in the mountains of Colorado, Maine, and Maryland. I have spent many vacations on the coast and near water. I love both and can’t decide, so why not treat myself  and my family to both at once?
  7. I don’t like writing about myself. I like writing. Just not about myself. I’m slowly getting over that fear.


Living Inside Out Loud

Living Inside Out LoudIt’s official! My biography and column page for Living Inside Out Loud are live and ready for my first submission to The Washington Times Communities. I’m so excited to write and publish my first story, hopefully, by the end of this week.

I am determined to bring more awareness to the connection between personality disorders, domestic violence/intimate partner abuse, and PTSD to as many people willing to read about it. I’ll be providing many references, resources, and expert testimony in each article. Stories will be more formal than my postings here but will hopefully add credibility to an otherwise overlooked social and family issue.



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