A moment arrives in your recovery when you no longer feel anger and contempt for the sociopath and instead feel sadness and remorse for being so angry. This change in mindset may cause confusion and has the potential to lead you into a dark and moody space of guilt and shame. But this shift is a healthy shift. This shift indicates the opening of your heart, which was closed thanks to the toxic relationship dynamics.
When this shift occurs, you may experience a sudden release of emotions, a sudden sadness and onset of tears. You may even become overwhelmed with the desire to reach out and apologize to the sociopath. This is normal. Don’t act on the urge, however, because apologizing directly to the sociopath will simply result in getting sucked back into the sociopath’s twisted field of influence. Instead, release yourself from the guilt and shame completely by cutting the energetic cord which kept you emotionally and spiritually attached to the sociopath and blocked your ability to move forward toward peace.
Once the cord is finally cut, the grieving process ends, and your mind and body are finally unburdened. Your heart and head are finally in sync, and the anger is buried and absent forever.
This is not a state of weakness. This is a moment of strength, a state of awakening. You’ve moved from a place of darkness and into a place of awareness. At first, it may not feel like a breakthrough. At first, it may feel painful and more like suffering. Be assured that the transition into the comfort of an awakened state is swift. A new reality awaits, one in which you’re free from the energy-sucking ruminating that kept you locked in a continuous loop of reliving your toxic relationship history.
What begins as a sudden and painful release of emotions, settles into a liberated state of being. You’re free. Unburdened. Open to new love, new life, and new beginnings. Don’t fear the tide. Move with it, not against it. Surrender to your heart. It speaks the Truth.
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