October 18, 2014 – Rachel’s story: Betrayal, abuse at the hands of a narcissist*

October 19, 2014 – Sofia’s advice on domestic violence: “Take off the blindfold. Knowledge is power.”

October 19, 2014 – Teresa’s story: He was a sociopath, not a good guy with a few bad demons

Each day during the month of October, column author Paula Carrasquillo will feature a story written by a survivor of domestic violence. At the end of October, a compilation of all stories will be available for free as an e-book.

*All names have been changed to protect the survivor and the survivor’s family and friends.

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  1. Reblogged this on Blog Of A Mad Black Woman and commented:
    “For me, the only way out was to reaffirm my relationship with God, because there was nothing left of me, the wife of a narcissist.” ~ Rachel’s Story

    “He told me no one would want me, and he was the best I was going to get.” ~ Sofia’s Advice

    “I now see him as his disorder and not the loving, charming guy I thought him to be. It was all fantasy.” ~ Teresa’s Story


  2. Yeah,Isn’t it amazing that having such a short & brief contact with these monsters can cause such doubt & havoc in our lives. Again this just inspires me even more to reach out to those who are still baffled by their BS & those who blame themselves for their lives being turned upside down. My ex N is in the healthcare profession & I can’t help but notice that many of the ” privileged, high income, educated health care professionals that have seemingly “perfect lives” with loving & devoted spouses & partners are the ones who are the biggest offenders? Is it just me or are these people that we view as professional, educated & hold in high esteem the ones we should be wary of!


  3. So I just needed to check back in for a validation and reality check today. I have been no contact with ex N, not drinking, woking out & feeling good about myself & future. Then today I get a voice mail left on my cell phone from an unknown # asking for ex N’s latest “soul(Ho) mate” by name and talking about getting a message to my ex from their neighbors…neighbors that used to be mine before my ex moved his new (ho) into our home and I broke no contact & lost my mind but just a little bit until I got a response from my ex N claiming he does not know what I am talking about, and that no one he knows would waste their precious time communicating with an angry, spiteful ungrateful person like me! After reading that or any txts from this monster I used to fall apart but not this time no no no, I refuse to give him any of my power anymore His insensitive narcissistic response reminded me of what a mentally ill creature he is & how there are unfortunately many more just like him (ha ha ha they think they are so unique…but once you have dealt with one of these beasts you understand that they are all the same & they never change because they are never wrong or to blame) Being reminded that there are more beasts like him out there reminded me that there are more victims too that need our support, encouragement & validation. I promised myself after waking up from my nightmare with the N that I would be an advocate for those victims just waking up to their nightmare with an N still learning & struggling with these demons. My hope is one day that our legal system recognizes emotional abuse, betrayal & lies as a crime punishable by fines or jail time and provide emotional help & support for their victims & children. One day hopefully soon if I had my way, when you lie, cheat & betray someone you promised before God & our legal system to love, honor & cherish, your ass goes to jail, or you have to come up with a lot of money for fines but mostly my hope is that these monsters are exposed & recognized as the unfeeling superficial predators that they really are. There… I feel much better now! Nothing better than feeling validated & safe & comfortable to be able to express your feelings without feeling cray cray! Thank you Paula for holding this space! Blessings & Love!


    • Good for you, Pamela! Those types of comments we receive from these people, even long after the relationship ends, can be enough to send us spinning into blame, shame and doubt. It happened to me and many others, and I became desperate to be accepted as a human by him. I didn’t know better and only got hurt more. So I am here, along with others like you, because I don’t wish for anyone to make the same mistakes I made trying to make sense of the senseless. 🙂


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