milli-vanilli
Sociopaths fail to understand that the rest of us don’t live from a place of just our eyes and ears. We aren’t material people at heart. Seeing and hearing something isn’t always believing. We expect inner substance from our relationships. We want people in our lives who have some type of core vibration that speaks and resonates with our core vibration.

They lip-synch their way through life, like that late 80’s duo Milli Vanilli. Remember them and how crushed and pathetic they were when the whole world discovered their ruse? It only took a single skip of the needle.

And like Milli Vanilli, Sociopaths create deafening cacophony in the end despite sounding and appearing so beautiful at first. They mimic and mouth words and body language they’ve heard and seen others use with success. Sociopaths believe that saying and acting from a robotic place that LOOKS like they are genuine will attract and keep genuine people in their lives.

But sociopaths are always discovered as the frauds they are. We see their mouths move and their bodies sway out of synch as the record skips. This results in a lot of coughing and spitting and physical rage from the sociopaths who are desperate to regain control of their performance.

And the record they seem to have on repeat ALWAYS skips a beat, because life and actions and people are never as predictable as sociopaths hope them to be.

Core vibrations can’t be faked or duplicated.

Namaste!
~Paula

(P.S. Despite the fact that I believe the two young men of Milli Vanilli were victims of the music industry, this is an analogy that fits.)

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  1. So well described. Thank you for that post. So empowering to be reminded that we are not alone and others do “see” the façade.

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  2. […] Sociopaths and their Milli Vanilla act by Paula’s Pontifications […]

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  3. You are so right- core vibrations can not be faked or duplicated. I often wonder if narcissists realize that the rest of us are not faking it when we show spontaneous compassion, love, enjoyment and excitement for others. You can see them trying to mimic these behaviors which for many of us are simply authentic.

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    • I think they think we’re all acting and full of BS just like they are!! I think they really believe that “all the world is a stage” and that everyone is dark to their core like they are and that life is about faking it as long as you can. 😦

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  4. Reblogged this on BEEN TO HELL & BACK BECAUSE I FOUND THE EXITS and commented:
    Brilliant analogy!!

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  5. Paula, WOW! I thank you for the response. I am so sorry that happen to you but may you be blessed double fold for the deception. So far I am good in my being an advocate but for spreading the word a group of us who use social media was banned for sending messages for an indefinite time:(. Someone labeled a few as a spammer:(. No biggie, but sad for those who may wish to reach out to those banned. Yet, everyone listen to Paula and pay attention to the warning I gave.
    Some people are not ready and you can get hurt. I would not be happy to loose money as Paula did and I cannot imagine giving a space in your home out of kindness to now to be forced out of your home. So thanks Paula for sharing that and even I am going to be more careful. I had thought of setting up a fund for those of us hurt financially but now reading what happen to you I think I let other resources for those abused to handle that. I been abused enough I could not handle being abused by someone I was trying to help. Paula you really have a big heart because that would have crushed me big time.

    Anon

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    • Always use our new-found judgement! What happened to me happened over 12 months ago. I have since learned more and have helped out a few very good online friends since. Those stings help in a weird way to make us pay more attention to our gut and intuitions. 🙂 ❤

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  6. Paula, again another good post, I watched with the “evil little boy” how he could not keep up with his lies. This is how I began to know something was wrong because he started accusing me of stuff that never happen between us or that was his behavior and not mine with his belittle and downgrade of me.

    Sadly these little boys are not who they say they are and we suffer a huge price. Along the way with my “evil little boy” I lost a child, work, opportunities and good friends who tried to warn me but I would not listen so they walked away because they could not handle the negativity of me throwing myself away for several years. The impact upon my life has been huge and that is understatement.

    My last to add here is I have kept saying pay it forward but be careful who you help because some people are not ready. Two people I know who tried to help others for the past few years were threaten by the narcissist and even the victim that they had to change everything phone numbers etc. and now trying to get out of their lease agreement because the victim confided in them and they took her in because she had no place to stay. All happen because she broke no contact. This was a great couple who did this for a complete stranger and helped the person who helped me start my journey. So, I feel a bit down today with all of this but trying to feel empowered still but it is harder today than usual. I do not like seeing good people hurt.

    Anon

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    • Thank you, anon, for your thoughtful warning. Setting our boundaries is key, even as advocates. We must protect the well-being of ourselves and our immediate family before we take that leap to physically or financially assist other victims. I learned a similar lesson…lost nearly $1000 helping someone whom I thought needed my help but was really an abuser in disguise. I also lost too much time beating myself up for being so naive! 🙂 ❤

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  7. U nailed it. Excellent analogy.

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  8. Love this, Paula! Ha ha HAAAAA! Nothing like a good belly laugh in the morning 🙂 (So true, by the way).

    Kim ❤

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  9. I hope you’re right Paula. As far as I know, my ex-spath is still going strong with his current victim going on four years now. I’d like to see him crash and burn, but I know that will never happen. Oh well, it is what it is. Thanks for the post.

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  10. Paula, this is so true & funny (how 80s of you!). It’s also tragic. I hope that prevention of sociopathic behavior will result in the awareness you bring. It certainly helps us victims — to a point. The sociopath, apparently, has not only an empty heart, but an empty life, with time to harass, torment, & attempt to destroy. Lies must take much energy. It is certainly tiresome trying to figure out reality, but it’s gotten where I really don’t care, because something much bigger and better is where my attention must be. The latest convoluted lie is how happy my daughter is without me — how much better off she is, etc., etc., etc. Yet, the X is telling others how fed up he is with our daughter’s drug use (yes, it takes drugs for a kid to cope with such a psychologically abusive person enabled by a corrupt family court system) and hairstyles and her cost (he wants more child support from me while bragging he does not have a job but a part-time hobby that pays adequately. He claims to others he wants my daughter, now a high school senior, out of the house as soon as she graduates from high school, yet he stated that he bought her a lab puppy. Why would you buy a high school senior a dog they couldn’t take with them, unless you want to compete, manipulate, and/or cause more sense of loss? Or maybe the dog is really for him? A guessing game I hope my daughter chooses not to play and instead captain’s her own ship. I subscribed her to Ms. Magazine — her dad will crap his pants. Oh, well. May all individuals be strong and loving and not controlling.

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