In the aftermath of sociopath abuse, you might sense that you continue to shy away from your passion. You might even be ashamed of your intensity.
This is normal, because after being demeaned and minimized by the sociopath for so long, we tend to be afraid of our own success and joy.
We keep hearing the words of the sociopath echoing in our heads:
“You really don’t think you can succeed at that, do you?”
“Others know more about that than you do.”
“You think you’re so smart, huh?”
“Wow, you think a little too highly of yourself, don’t you think?”
“You’ll give up.”
“That idea won’t get you very far. You should focus your time in something more practical.”
Repeatedly!! With every thought, idea, or endeavor you shared with the sociopath, the sociopath knocked you down. Being knocked down was expected and you soon stopped being creative and innovative.
You ceased to be alive!
But you’re living now. It’s time you start to deprogram yourself completely from the sociopath’s influence, because that piece of garbage is no longer standing next to you whispering defeating comments into your ear. He/she is no longer trying to sabotage your efforts with your family or your friends. That sociopath is no longer real…remember?
Beginning today, write down those passions. Share them with someone you love. Imagine your ideas coming to fruition…all by yourself!
You CAN do it. Whatever it is. You CAN stand alone if you have to for a bit. You do not need 100% acceptance and understanding from anyone but yourself.
When we start living again, some of the people in our lives who are more accustomed to us being reserved and reliant on them for support might react negatively to our sudden independence at first.
Don’t let that worry you. Simply explain to these people that you’re perfectly sane, you’re not delusional, you’re awake, and you’re more awake than you’ve been in a very long time.
The people who love you will be relieved and will celebrate with you. The people who never really gave a shit about you, outside of controlling you, will be uncomfortable with your new found freedom and will retreat. You may never see or talk to some of those people again.
The emerging and refreshed you doesn’t have time to continuously explain yourself to those who aren’t interested in getting it.
Keep your light shining brightly. No more self-defeating thoughts. Replace all of the crappy things the sociopath projected your way with inspirational and mindful encouragement.
Encouragement. Simple, real, genuine encouragement unhindered by strings, expectations, or obligations.
Don’t fear being a little excited and eccentric. That excitement and eccentricity is exactly what our world needs today. ❤