Love to a sociopath is about possession, personal gains, and benefits.
From sex and trophy spouses to community status and financial wealth, sociopaths are involved with others for material benefits, not to establish deep, fulfilling heart connections.
In romance, as long as the sociopath gets what the sociopath expects, needs, and desires, the sociopath will “love” you.
Once the sociopath has drained you of your worth and dignity, the sociopath will get bored and begin plotting an exit plan. Part of that plan is to make you, the one being discarded, look like the crazy and unstable one.
How do sociopaths do this?
Easily…they simply treat you as they’ve always thought of you…like you don’t matter. And you don’t matter as a human being to the sociopath. You never have, and you never will. You were simply a means to an end.
Once you can accept this and stop fighting against this insanity and stop begging to be treated like a human with a heart, you’ll be able to begin to heal and live again.
Reconciling this in our hearts and minds simultaneously seems impossible. But if we repeatedly remind ourselves that when we are dealing with someone who lacks a heart and a conscience, we can’t expect that person to respect our heart and our conscience.
How can we expect the sociopath to respect something in us that they’ve never felt or known in themselves?
Like insightful writers who write what they know, sociopaths behave based on what they know. And their knowledge is limited to what they know of themselves…and they are empty.