All I know how to do today is share what I am passionate about with zero expectations. It’s how I operate in every corner of my life, from raising my son and being a friend to working my day job and training to become a yoga teacher.

I’m not lucky, fortunate or privileged. Where I find myself today has less to do with the people in my life who love me but more to do with my ability to believe in their love and that I am worthy of that love.

I don’t know where tomorrow will take me. I just do things today because I love doing them. I love life, and I love to share what I have learned. That’s it.

I have no desire or wish to be anyone’s guru or to be revered. And I can’t control how people judge me. That’s probably the most valuable lesson I have learned on this journey: I can only control how I view myself and my abilities. That view can either stifle me or empower me.

I simply have something inside of me that drives and propels me to get it out of me. My one hope is that someone, anyone, will find what I share valuable and useful and will inspire that person to share what is inside of them, too.

Sure, I’m a bit of an idealist. I want to see everyone succeed. I want to see people happy despite their pasts or their current struggles. And I honestly believe it is absolutely possible…a bunch of happy people co-existing and growing and sharing.

What’s so wrong with that?

Paula Carrasquillo is an active yogi, author, and advocate who has lived in numerous watersheds throughout the United States, including Colorado, Maine, Maryland and New Mexico. She currently lives in the Washington, D.C. metro area. Paula is passionate about her family, friends and the motivational and brave people she meets daily through her online writing and social media exchanges. To Paula, every person, place, thing, idea and feeling she encounters is significant and meaningful, even those which she most wants to forget. Follow Paula on Twitter and check out her other blog.

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  2. That would indeed be the start of a lovely world.


  3. I completely agree, Paula. This is why when people contact me for guidance, I try to gently ease them into focusing on recovery and accepting their worth instead of ruminating on what happened to them and what their abuser is up to. Anger and venting do have their place in recovery, but they are only steps of a process, and at some point should be left behind.

    When we ruminate over our past, we are acting out of fear. When we release those fears, and focus on enlightenment and self-worth, it opens up a whole new life for us. I am so happy to know you are a kindred spirit in this respect…look at where you are today. You have flourished and live without fear of judgment, and that’s what I like so much about you. You’re a shining example of what happens when we move on from our past.

    By the way, I’m only 3-4 hours away from the DC area, depending on which city you live in. Maybe we can meet up sometime this summer, which is when I usually travel there 🙂 I typically hit up the Vienna/Fairfax area.


    • Yes, yes, yes!! I would love to meet up! I live in MD, but Vienna and Fairfax are close. Not an issue driving during non-rush hour traffic. And once I get my taxes completed this weekend, I’ll be more open to driving to meet you halfway on most weekends.

      And moving through our emotions and not being ashamed of them is vital. We’re allowed to be angry or confused or happy or sad. But we owe it to ourselves to investigate the source of those feelings so we understand them better and learn patience with ourselves when the ones we dislike feeling creep in again. We help each other with that understanding, I think. 🙂 ❤


    • Awesome! I’ll let you know when we are headed that way!

      True dat! Although moving on is critical, that doesn’t mean we won’t feel sadness or grief, but as you said, feeling them and letting them move throughout our body and recognizing them in the moment is also important so they don’t manifest as some nasty condition.

      Hugs 😀


    • And if you ladies are in Boston, I hope you’ll look me up. 🙂


    • You know it! Boston is on my list of US cities to visit. And YogaHope is in Boston, which has the yoga for trauma teacher certification program I’d like to enroll. Regardless, we’re going to meet one day! 🙂


    • Kim,
      So beautifully said — especially the part about “when we ruminate over our past, we are acting out of fear”. I am finally past this, at last!


  4. I love that you are “a bit of an idealist”– I would not have it any other way! Wonderful “balancing post” about staying centered in our own life and love. thank you.


    • And you have been my I inspiration to draw, Kimberly! Although my younger sister is the artist, I have dabbled over the years. I participated in a design workshop at work a few weeks ago, and they gave us all sketch/graph paper books and drawing pens. Why not use them, right?!? 🙂 ❤


  5. Reblogged this on Paula's Pontifications and commented:
    There is no growth in fear. You know that. You lived it! Namaste. ~Paula


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