Why does it matter to you, knowing what you know about sociopaths, if the sociopath likes you or not?
Personally, I would like for all sociopaths to meet me and instantly get repulsed.
If they liked me, I’d be open to becoming a potential victim.
But I’m not going to go out of my way to be unlikable just in case a sociopath crosses my path.
However, I will use my boundaries and practice saying “no” in all situations and all relationships.
Saying “no” is relatively harmless. Normal, non-sociopathic people might initially respond to your “no” with a grimace or two, but they’ll get over it and respect you in the end.
However, the least pleasant word to hit a sociopath’s ears is the word “no.” It’s the biggest red flag while the sociopath is assessing potential victims. The sociopath hears that word and immediately thinks, “What a piece of shit she is to say “no” to me! I’ll show her. I’m not going to be her friend.”
(Thank you, God!!)
Do you see how we can dodge these bullets, completely unaware, just by being true to ourselves, our interests, and our desires?
Putting yourself first by using your boundaries isn’t a selfish act; it’s a self-preserving and protective act.
So even though you let the sociopath from your past (and possibly still your present) walk all over your boundaries, you have the opportunity to build up and maintain those once crushed boundaries.
Start today. Start saying “no” when you really want to say “no.”
You want the sociopath to continue to think you suck. Really…You do.
Besides, once a sociopath thinks you suck, you’ll always suck in the eyes of a sociopath.
Even if you become Miss America, the next governor of your state, or a New York Times best selling author, the sociopath will STILL continue to smear you among his/her minions and all of the people once mutual in your inner circle while in the toxic relationship.
Don’t let the sociopath’s nonsense and refusal to evolve his/her mind stop you from finding and reaching your potential. Who cares what the sociopath thinks, right?
Be proud of your breakthroughs and accomplishments out of love and respect for yourself. You will never be able to change the sociopath’s ugly and dismissive opinion of you.
Keep saying “no” to the sociopath but “yes” to your own needs and dreams and wishes and goals!!