(‘To project’ is what guilty people in denial do in hopes of making everyone else feel as empty and as dark as the guilty person in denial feels. Guilty people not in denial are able to face their ‘crimes’ and be accountable for their crimes; they don’t project blame onto others. Instead, guilty people not in denial take full responsibility for their behavior and carry their shame upon their backs until they die.)
Now back to the sociopath who is always guilty and always in denial.
>> When the sociopath tells you that you are a worthless whore, he’s actually revealing his promiscuous past and his sexual exploits and abuses of others.
>> When the sociopath tells you that men/women are only interested in you because they want to have sex with you, the sociopath is telling you that the sociopath is only interested in you for sex.
>> When the sociopath tells you that your best friend is not worthy of being your best friend, the sociopath is actually revealing that you shouldn’t trust the sociopath to be your friend.
>> When the sociopath tells you that your family doesn’t really love you and is just enabling you, the sociopath is telling you that the sociopath’s family is loveless and just tolerates each other because it looks better to seem like a loving family.
>> When the sociopath tells you that your son isn’t lovable and that your son only says loving things to you in order to manipulate you, the sociopath is telling you that the sociopath doesn’t love his own mother and is only nice to her to get her to do things for him.
>> When the sociopath tells you that you’re a liar, the sociopath is really confessing that the sociopath is the one who has been lying to you from the beginning of the relationship.
>> When the sociopath accuses you of being selfish and not putting the relationship first, the sociopath is telling you that the sociopath is an egotistical jerk who doesn’t really care about you or the relationship beyond having something to control.
>> When the sociopath tells you that you’re crazy, sick, bipolar and borderline, the sociopath is revealing the sociopath’s deep-rooted, psychological issues that the sociopath has been fighting against his entire life.
You can place a solid bet on the fact that anything ugly and judgmental that comes out of the sociopath’s mouth against you or another person is actually a self-observing statement of the sociopath by the sociopath.
Who says the sociopath isn’t reflective!?! The sociopath is always reflective!? The sociopath is so caught up in his own reflection that he confuses himself with everyone else when he glances up on occasion and sees us standing there. The sociopath ONLY has the capacity to see himself in all things and all people. He can’t think outside of himself, making him mediocre, not genius or evolved like he’d like us all to believe.
(Don’t, for a second, give consideration to the self-professing sociopath’s claim that sociopaths possess a genius or an above-average intelligence. It’s a crock of BS. Some sociopaths may be more able to go unnoticed longer than other sociopaths making these sociopaths seem intelligent in their manipulations. But none of them have brains and abilities as marvelous and as agile as non-sociopaths. And none of them can overpower a non-sociopath who has finally caught on to who and what the sociopath is.)
Once you see this and accept this, the easier it becomes to detach from all the bullshit accusations the sociopath throws in your direction. We should simply deflect the sociopath’s accusations back. We should hold up our shield and allow the sociopath’s own words, his weapons, to destroy the sociopath. It’s really an effortless approach.
How do we do that? How do we deflect the accusations without looking as ridiculous as the sociopath?
We say nothing. We just let the sociopath spew. He’ll eventually realize the only one who is listening to him is himself. He’ll eventually shut up or find another audience that will listen to his pity party, because he can’t stand recognizing that he’s the only one paying attention and that he’s talking to himself about himself.
Although few say anything about what their gut is telling them about the sociopath, every one of us sees through the sociopath’s projections. It’s just easier to say nothing than to deal with the wrath of a bruised and injured psychopath, don’t you agree?
After all, they are dangerous and predictable in the harm they are capable of inflicting, and it’s best not to provoke them. Just keep deflecting by saying nothing and remaining silent.
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