One thing I have learned from writing my book and continuing this blog, is that there are far too many people in this world who have fallen prey to abuse, sociopathic or otherwise. And the number of men who are victims/survivors is probably equal to the number of women who have suffered. Men just don’t talk about it as openly as women do, so the number of men affected may seem lower, but more than likely, they are the same.
Possibly due to my recent post about this not being a man-hating blog or maybe due to something aligning perfectly in the cosmos, but recently I have been contacted by more than the usual number of male victims/survivors of abuse looking for support and help.
This is bittersweet for me:
Bitter, because I get disheartened at the news of anyone suffering and struggling for support and understanding. Bitter, because I am saddened at the thought of the actual number of men I walk past and encounter every day who could be silently suffering like so many of the women I have encountered since my own journey to recovery began.
Sweet, because I rejoice in knowing that more and more of us are seeking help and not just relying on our inadequate selves to recover. Sweet, because men and women are coming together, unifying, to make sense of abuse which has typically been misunderstood as only a female issue.
Regardless of the why behind this trend, I’m choosing to embrace it and grow with it.
I reached out to some of my female survivor friends to ask them for help with compiling a list of places online that are specific to helping men. This list is by no means comprehensive, but it is a start and can speak to a larger list and page as folks comment and add to it.
So PLEASE, comment and add your thoughts and reactions to this list. I have not personally vetted these sites or resources, but maybe there are some men in the audience who can help add value and credibility.
1. www.HelpGuide.org – This site has a page dedicated to helping men find support after abuse.
2. Heart-to-Heart Living – Empowering Men since 2003
3. www.MenWhoAreAbused.com – Also have a youtube channel. His name is James.
4. begood4000 – A youtube channel maintained by the page above.
5. Men’s Advice Line – Advice and support for men of domestic violence and abuse.
6. Mankind Initiative – Support for male victims of domestic abuse and domestic violence
7. Domestic Violence Against Men – Information provided on the Mayo Clinic’s site on how to recognize signs of abuse specifically for male victims.
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