“I’m a good person!! I am a good person!”
The first time he screamed this at me, I thought to myself, “Well, I never said he wasn’t a good person. Why does he think that I think otherwise?”
My theory is that in the sociopath’s quiet desperation to be like us (you know, the good people), he recognizes that he can never be like us. And because he sees that he can’t be like us, he suspects we see it, too.
But we don’t see it. We keep thinking that he is good and behaves as he does because he suffered in his life, either at the hands of abusive parents or the hands of some other care giver.
If you keep thinking this and if you keep thinking the sociopath can get better and be “fixed,” you’re wasting your life’s potential on someone who will do nothing but bring you pain and suffering.
It’s tough to accept. After all, you think you saw a glimmer of good in him, right?
No one who purposely abuses children just to feel superior is good. No one who threatens a pregnant mother by telling her he is going to take away her baby before she can have a chance to hold it is good.
To hell with these people! And to hell with their families who keep enabling and protecting their lies.
You do not have to think every person on the planet is good. There is evil among us, and the sooner we accept that, the sooner real change can happen.
By giving them excuses, public or private, you allow them to thrive.
Remember, they need us. We do not need them.
And they’ll be just fine without you in their life. They aren’t going to spontaneously combust or kill themselves. Those are lies, too.
Shit, it’s been over two years since I left the boy in my story, and he still hasn’t acted on his threat to commit suicide if I left him. I knew he wouldn’t. Damn! I knew he couldn’t!
So the next time the sociopath in your life screams at you that he’s good, say, “Yes, but I’m better.”
Because you are.
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