I am writing a follow-up book to Escaping the Boy: My Life with a Sociopath and would like you and your story to be a part of it!
My second book will focus on healing and recovery from pathological love relationships using mindful approaches like yoga, meditation, writing, journaling, joining support groups and much more.
I believe that the more real-life examples victims, survivors and advocates read, the better our collective understanding. The better our collective understanding, the easier it will be to increase our support systems and see real change in how divorce, child custody, domestic violence, rape and intimate partner abuse cases are approached, investigated and determined/prosecuted.
By following the “Submit Your Story” link, completing and submitting the form, you agree to have your story shared anonymously. However, if you would like me to use your name in my book, check the box at the end of the form prior to submission. Your name and home state/country will be included in the book’s acknowledgments.
If you have any questions prior to completing the form, send me a private message.
You can complete as little or as much of the form/questionnaire as you would like. Keep in mind that writing about your experiences may cause anxieties and a flood of emotions. If you are triggered in any way, stop writing and speak to a trusted counselor or loved one.
Your Healing Frequency 
17 responses to “Share your story of survival and recovery with me for my next book!”
Hi Paula,
I don’t know if any of those epic emails I wrote to you throughout the entire month of April (while I tried via your guidance and wisdom to come to terms with the fact that I was involved with a Pathological Liar) qualify, but feel free to use them if they serve some purpose or use for your next book.
I still owe you a blog based on your nomination. I had a bad week last week and evej worse weekend — I was living too much inside my head. I had a therapy appt on Saturday that was emotional. When I got home, I wound up going back to bed and slept for 3 hours! My therapist gave me some work to do, which I started on Sunday. It is helping. She also told me I need to be patient. That I’m putting too much pressure on myself to get over what happened… I wish I had magical powers, because if I did, I would erase every last memory of that asshole! What I keep failing to realize is that by doing the work I am on the road to healing.
XOXO
-S
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It can take a long time to fully recover–many estimates say between one and two years. I’m almost a year and a half out of my 6-year relationship with the psychopath and he’s still the first thing I think of when I wake up. But he’s not always the last thing I think of before falling asleep, which is an improvement from even a month ago, so I know that it is getting better, just verrrry slowly!
Be patient with yourself, you will heal when you are ready. It may take longer than you expect, but did you expect you’d fall in love with a sociopath? So cut yourself some slack and let it happen. Do the work, but also enjoy every minute that you are not living with a pathologically lying abusive asshole.
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Well said and good advice. 🙂
My therapist has told me that it is unrealistic for me to expect myself to be “over this” in a month. She said, “You’ve only just found out the truth, you are going to need time to process and heal. You cannot expect to wave a magic wand and be over this.” I’ve been doing the work and taking all the advice I can get. I know, in time, my Ex will be a distant memory.
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Your therapist is VERY smart. It’s going to take time. Just be gentle with yourself. 🙂
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I am lucky that I have people like you holding me up when I feel as though I cannot hold myself up.\\
That said, I do feel stronger and more at peace every single day. I believe the Meditation is really helping.
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Absolutely! I am so glad you are dedicated to meditation and being good to yourself. You deserve it!
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XO
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What is the deadline?
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September 30, 2013. 🙂
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Oh yeah! Thank you. I’d love to contribute, and I’m glad there is time to put together something while I spend most nights playing with my babies.
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That’s too exciting…the spending time with your babies part. 🙂
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I have been avoiding writing about the charismatic one – when I do you can have that one Paula. Am trying to get my blog into book form the formatting is driving me crazy!! So, you can have my story – as I wont be using it in my book, its more about well same as my blog really working on healing, recovery and empowerment. When I can stomach going over the drama with him – and his crazy behaviour will forward it to you! 🙂
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Paula you are so ambitious. Success with the book venture. God bless
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Reblogged this on Impower You and commented:
Do you have a story of survival at the hands of a Sociopath? Paula is looking for submissions to he upcoming book, “Boy: My Life with a Sociopath”. I think sharing our stories of survival gives others not only hope, but a guide to be the saviors of their own lives.
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This sounds like such an awesome idea, and I can’t believe no one has done it before (at least as far as I know, and I’ve read ALL the books).
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I hope it turns out as awesome as it sounds, Abbri! I hope it proves useful and effective for someone. I’ve already received 10 submissions in one day! I can’t believe it. So many of us need to be heard; we need to read or see reactions to our stories. That’s how we get validated and find the strength to move ahead despite the almost unbelievable things we have seen and heard from another human being we were fooled into loving and caring. 🙂
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