If you are or have ever been in a relationship with a narcissistic sociopath (or any number of pathologically disordered characters, for that matter), you’ve been stonewalled. Being stonewalled is disturbing and frustrating, to say the least.
The following seven (7) characteristics of “Stonewalling” were taken from the blog, Psychopath Resistance.
1. Refusal to negotiate a conflict in good faith.
2. Refusal to discuss honestly one’s motivations.
3. Refusal to listen to another point of view with openness.
4. Refusal to compromise.
5. Refusal to collaborate.
6. Refusal to support the other person’s plans.
7. Refusal to accept influence.
Stonewalling tactics guarantee narcissistic supply.
After prolonged periods of being stonewalled, we are forced to do whatever it takes to get an answer and to resolve the issues. We drop to our knees begging and pleading for answers.
They count on us to offer up an apology and to admit to our inadequacies. And we always deliver, because that’s what honest people do.
In good faith, we make our final and last-ditch effort in hopes of resolving the situation. We say something like this:
“I am sorry and understand your frustration, because I should not have said or done X, Y, and Z. Please forgive me. Please talk to me. We need to work this out.”
But this just opens ourselves to more pain and gives the narcissist more fodder to keep blaming us. It’s a twisted and sick game. And makes life so damn complicated.
These fools never change. Your relationship never gets better. It only gets worse. Life should be simple. Love should be simple.