If you’re stuck in a relationship this holiday season with a dark soul who expects more than he/she deserves, don’t give that person anything you feel obligated to give, including your love.

Do you demand love from God? No!

Do you demand love from your children? No!

Do you demand love from anyone you love and cherish? No!

So why do you feel it’s okay for the dark soul in your life to demand it from you? Why do you allow the dark soul to make you feel guilty if you don’t show your love or give your love the way the dark soul demands that you show or give it? You shouldn’t!!

The following is my favorite line from one of my favorite movies, Moulin Rouge.

“The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is to love and be loved in return.” ~Christian

Has the dark soul in your life learned how to love? Of course not! So don’t give him any love in return and don’t waste your time thinking YOU are the one who can finally teach him how to love.

Spend this holiday season pouring yourself with love. Gift yourself with an escape or at least start a plan. By next year this time, you’ll be celebrating with people you really love and love you in return.


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  1. I am going to get some of these phrases put on a T-shirt! I still, even though, I work on this, allow others to make me feel guilty. It is something that can become a loop- guilt, love, back to guilt.
    The words you wrote are so clear. Thank you.


  2. Thank you, Paula. (I copied this on my blog, with credit to you.) I hope you are enjoying your day! :}


    • Thank you!! I hope you had a peaceful Christmas. It’s snowing in Maryland today. I hope to leave work a little early before the roads get messy. 🙂


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  4. No truer words were ever spoken!! There is no such thing as not loving enough. Love is love all on its own. Either you let it in or you don’t. Today I choose to love myself, let it pour in and not spend one more second thinking I haven’t loved enough because of someone else’s inability to let it in. Thank you Paula. May you and you family feel the immense blessings upon you this Holy Season.


  5. God Bess you Paula and my best wishes for a wonderful 2013.


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