20121203-115036.jpgShe calls him a psychopath. She fought for custody of her son and won. But she lost the battle for supervised visitations. Now, her beautiful baby boy Prince is dead. He was only 14 months old.

Prince’s mother, Hera McLeod and blogger at Cappuccino Queen, has many to “thank” for the death of her son, including the Montgomery County Maryland family court system (MoCo). MoCo failed to properly handle a delicate decision that allowed the father, a person of interest for murder and an alleged rapist in Prince William County Virginia, to have unsupervised visitations with his son Prince, a child who will never have an opportunity to speak.

Why is this happening? The courts and law enforcement need to wake up to the reality that parental rights must take a back seat to children rights when one or more of the parents display signs of having a personality disorder like narcissistic personality disorder, borderline personality disorder, antisocial personality disorder and/or sociopathy/psychopathy.

Do judges make these careless decisions because the pleadings from the other parent are too emotional, and the judge simply thinks she/he is overreacting or acting vindictive due to a broken heart? That is a myth that needs to be shattered. We DO NOT love these monsters. We DO NOT want to reconcile with these monsters. We want to be free of them and be guaranteed that our children will be free from their emotional, verbal, and often physical abuses. Wouldn’t you be emotional, too, if you had every reason in the world to fear that the father of your child is capable of irreparable damage to your child, including murder?

Yet, faced with overwhelming evidence, MoCo Judge Algeo in Prince McLeod’s case made the decision to allow the father unsupervised visits. By the fourth visit, dear little Prince was fighting for his life in the hospital, but the injuries he endured were too much. His little body wasn’t powerful enough to recover.

One can make many assumptions about who, what, when, and how the baby was injured. But for many of us who have experienced the diabolical lies, manipulations, and behavior of our own narcissist and/or sociopath, the truth may never be revealed, not even through an autopsy report. One thing is certain, however: a child is dead and nothing can bring him back to the ones who love him.

Visit Hera McLeod’s blog, Cappuccino Queen, and read the recent article in The Washington Post related to Prince’s death. What do you think? Should THAT judge and judges like him even be allowed to reside over such proceedings? As tax payers and members of a democratic free society, you and I have EVERY right to question these decisions and demand answers.

(And it’s not as simple as looking at the court-case history or the father’s criminal history. We all should know that by now. Remember Josh Powell and his now dead wife, Susan, and her boys?)

Namaste!

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  1. The psychologist and the agency that employed her should be held at fault to the highest extent possible. The psychologist who performed this evaluation appears to have no formal training in forensic psychology — the area of psychology that deals with violence risk, parenting capacity, and legal decisions regarding these issues. there is a formal methodology for doing these evaluations which would include: gathering evidence from others regarding the person being evaluated (which in this case would include the mother), gathering a legal history from official records, and psychological testing. From wheat is publicly available, it appars the psychologist did none of this. Sue, file a licensing action, and keep the issue alive in the media. the mother should not just settle for the million dollars that the insurance company will pay. Take it to court, win, and hold those responsible up to public scrutiny so this will not happen again.

    From the web page of the agency that oversaw the evaluation, this is how they describe themselves … ” Dedicated to excellence in psychological and psychiatric practice, Ashburn Psychological Services (APS) offers a wide array of diagnostic, psychotherapy, medication and consultation services for children, adolescents, adults and families. APS is the premier clinical psychology and psychiatry practice in Loudoun County …”.

    Hhhm, dedicated to excellence? Premier psychology service? let them defend that in court. It will come back to haunt them. It doesn’t even appear a single one of their psychologists is board-certified.

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  2. Anonymous, your statement about talking personal responsibility is a common one and its attitudes like that that contribute to the problem. I was involved with a psychopath that I did not meet online, did not have children with but still ended up luck to get out alive. I thank God I am unable to have children because I probably would have.
    Unless you have dealt with one of these soulless bastards you can not pass judgement. Blaming the victim is why rape victims don’t report it, abuse victims don’t report it

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    • 100% agree, Carrie. Thank you for your comment. Unless someone is open to understanding, blaming the victim will always be the default unfortunately.

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  3. Paula, excellent post, hopefully with time and more posts like this, people will become educated about these monsters that live amongst us. As any one who has been involved with a narcissist/psychopath knows they are award winning actors and master manipulators who can twist the facts in their favor making themselves look like the victim. The true victim out of frustration and desperation becomes more and more emotional and the narcissist points his finger and says, “See I told you she is unstable, she’s a psycho! You can’t talk to her!”.

    Unfortunately an emotional person appears “out of control”, irrational and the narcissist presents a calm, friendly, and rational image.

    I have been there; after being hit by my ex and the police were called. My ex would be calling the same time I was to report that I had started it. We lived in a gated community, I would be locked in the house out of fear and he would greet them at the gate. By the time they got to me they were laughing with him and telling me to not start any trouble. It is very hard to maintain your composure. Yet if a woman IS able to control her emotions and is unemotional she is labelled cold and vindictive. Very few law enforcement or judges are trained to deal with these type of people or situations.

    One other thing and this is directed at

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    • Thank you, Carrie. I have been following your blog for nearly a year. You have many who truly would be lost if not for your willingness to open up and be vulnerable about your experiences and healing and recovery process. The emotion vs. no-emotions catch-22 is probably the most frustrating aspect of this entire battle. Why can’t we simply be allowed to be affected without being judged for how we react to the abuse? Who wouldn’t scream “foul” if treated as we were treated?

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    • Paula, you have come through for me with words of encouragement and support when I was at one of my lowest times. Hopefully by speaking out, you, me and others who have been there; the shame and stigma attached to domestic violence will disappear and when the silence is broken true change will occur.

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  4. Ummmmm how about not having babies with nutjobs who you met over the internet, knew a short time before becoming pregnant, and admittedly looked the other way at warning signs. Personal responsibility, people.

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    • Ah, yes. If only nutjobs tattooed “Nutjob” on their foreheads, it would be this simple. But YOU, Anonymous, must have a second sight, huh? Good for you!! 🙂

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  5. I fully believe that MANY judges and guardian ad-litem understand about abuse, but choose to ignore obvious criminal histories that are documented. That is why I believe they know what is going on, but much of the time choose to give custody/visitation to abusers that have NO business having it. There has to be something in it for them to unjustly label the protective parent as “vindictive”, or some psychological term (paranoid, alienating, etc.), when in fact the abuser is the one that has done the damage to merit these labels, to say the least. Yet many of these same judges would charge a mother (usually) with “failure to protect” if the child is harmed by abuser while victims still live in the home. How twisted is this??

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    • Thankfully, the police in this case were able to find enough evidence to arrest the child’s father. My heart aches for any parent who must battle to protect their child from known dangers. I WISH the courts would be more fair and level but there does seem to be a tendency to use a mother’s emotions against her in court. How can a mother NOT be emotional when the life of their child is at stake?

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  6. There is so much useless pain and suffering because…why…because someone is in power, or bigger, or tougher, or hell… name it…and who suffers, those that can not defend themselves! Judges, good and bad ones, are appointed, are they not? They can be voted out of office, can they not? votes that have feet are the best votes. nothing can replace what has been lost here, but, knowledge can be gained and being forewarned is better than living in ignorance…be mindful of the behaviors of those that are close to you. love does NOT conquer all…sometimes it kills it.

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  7. “Children’s best interest” is an oxymoron in Court Language. Judges aren’t interested in the children’s best interest, they are interested in punishing the spouse who initiated the divorce and getting on to the next case.

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  8. It’s horrifying to see that we were too late to save yet another child that endured the same fate as Baby Wyatt and Katie Tagle. FAR TOO OFTEN these Judges are allowed to determine credibility when they have received zero training on how best to do so.

    How many more children will need to die or be lost in the system before the courts wake up and realize that we aren’t saying “Abuse” because we want the jerk back – we are saying “Abuse” because it’s true!!

    I am so very sorry to hear about beautiful little Prince!!

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    • Tonja, let’s hope some judges see this case as a wake-up call. Too many are asleep at the wheel or so jaded that they just don’t care anymore. Why should we allow them to remain and continuing to abuse and misuse their power? We shouldn’t!! Each case must receive the attention they deserve. If the courts are overloaded, then they need to hire more judges and lower their salaries and prestige. Our system demands reverence from a public who should not be obligated to respect it if it has clearly failed. Our system is failing our children. Our system deserves zero respect from where I sit.

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  9. Please look at the case of Judge Lemkau denying Katie Tagle’s pleadings for him not to allow unsupervised visits for her ex, who had threatened to kill their baby. Baby Wyatt is now dead. Eerily similar to this case — in that Lemkau told Katie he thought she was lying, even though she and her mother presented concrete evidence in the form of texts etc. The public was horrified and this judge lost his bid for re-election. The judge who allowed baby Prince to die has blood on his hands, and needs to be kicked out of office too. Until people believe protective parents, children will continue to die.

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  10. Thank you for posting this, Paula. This story needs all the attention it can get. The courts have failed miserably here. It’s a big big job taking on full custody of a child and if a parent is trying to get it, there is probably a very good reason.

    Whether or not he’s a psychopath, it should have been clear from this guy’s past charges that he shouldn’t be alone with a child. I don’t think diagnoses should be the final word in deciding rights but they should certainly be taken into consideration. The spectrum is too broad. However, extremely deviant behavior, like this dick’s prior murder charges or Josh Powell’s child pornography incident should be huge red flag slaps in the face that these kind of people have no business as family members. There needs to be a list of lines-that-must-not-be-crossed and if they are you are done. Listen to me, the court system. There are certain lines that decent people simply do not cross.

    I hope that justice is served for poor Hera and Prince. It makes me absolutely sick to know that she did everything she could to prevent this and The Man insisted he knew better. Mama is always right.

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    • I don’t know why judges become judges if they aren’t interested in true justice. They have all of this power and choose to be abusive with it. They choose to be like the psychopaths, it seems. What a frightening thought.

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  11. that’s so sad. something definitely has to change!

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  12. I cannot understand how the system can let this happen. Our voices need to be heard loud and clear!

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  13. Not only does these judges have their head’s lodged firmly up their rear end’s, but so do Guardian ad Litems, or whatever your state called the child’s advocate. Even faced with the knowledge that my ex allowed 25 farm animals to starve to death without my knowledge,among other atrocities, he still gets unsupervised visits. I understand fully that my background is not squeaky clean, and that was the excuse I was given time and again, but his sickness he has demonstrated demands examination, not just being brushed under the carpet. I am so sad for that poor woman. That judge should lose his appointment.

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    • Just because a background is clean or dirty, shouldn’t be the only criteria. We know this to be true but it seems the courts ONLY use prior history as an indicator of future behavior. I’m more afraid of people with squeaky clean records who demonstrate poor decision making in their every day lives, actually. Red flag to me. Always goes back to Josh Powell and Scott Peterson and the BTK killer. Clean, clean, clean. But only on the surface. 🙂

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    • Agreed, 100%!

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  14. It’s difficult to press the like button here … hence this comment of compassion for the victims.

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