One of the keys to improving your self-esteem and self-worth is to build personal boundaries. I hope to write more about boundaries and detachment in the coming weeks. For now, enjoy my latest Washington Times column story:
Set personal boundaries before sitting down to Thanksgiving turkey
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12 responses to “Setting boundaries and building self-esteem”
Wonderful article Paula. I like when you state how easy it is to say yes because it is “polite”. It’s a wonderful lesson, maybe the most important root lesson, that I learned a few years ago. I refuse to go back to allowing my boundaries, which I have for good reason, be broken just to please someone. I have to live with the consequences after all not them.
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Exactly! It’s more important to be true to our own conscience than to another’s agenda or expectations. 🙂
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Yes and relatively easy once you have been doing it for a few years.
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As always, you bring this subject to light in an appealing way. Enjoy your writing
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Thank you, Shirley. I hope you have a great Thanksgiving. 🙂
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And, you also.
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That was a great article!
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Thank you, Angela!
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Thank you Paula. What a great article for Thanksgiving. I sent it to my daughter who, like me, can benefit from these very essential reminders! The part I love the most is “Don’t insist on being respected. Instead, gravitate toward those who “get it” the first time …..” A prescription for my new life!! Happy Thanksgiving. I’m grateful for you.
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Thank you, Linda. So glad you find it useful and passed it along to your daughter. Have a great Thanksgiving. 🙂
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Setting and holding boundaries is so important, and so often overlooked. It makes me think of Robert Frost and Mending Wall. “Before I built a wall I’d ask to know/ What I was walling in or walling out,/ And to whom I was like to give offence.” The speaker considers the purpose of his wall and what harm it might cause before building it. He then builds it. He still builds it even tho he knows someone will take offense, but he is aware of its consequences before setting stone on stone and can prepare.
We need to build good boundaries for ourselves, and know what purpose that boundary serves. “Good fences make good neighbors” and good family holidays.
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So true, Melanie. That poem popped into my head a few times as I wrote this. 🙂
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