Tina of One Mom’s Battle made me aware of this recent interview with Christie Brinkley by Matt Lauer on The Today Show. She has been divorced from her husband Peter Cook for four (4) years, but his abuse of her life continues. If you can’t see it in the last few minutes posted below, watch the entire video on The Today Show’s site. If you aren’t crying along with her, I’d be surprised.

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  1. I’ve nominated you for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award, visit my recent post for the guidelines.

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  2. Paula, It really struck me that she kept saying, All I want is peace. I haven’t thought of myself as being in an abusive situation until fairly recently, but for years and years, I have been saying, All I want is peace. Thank you for posting this.

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  3. It is heartbreaking to clearly see and understand what too many people out there do not. Emotional and psychological abuse is, in my eyes, more potent and toxic than any other kind of abuse and it has to be said that you can not have any other kind of abuse without automatically including the two. Every kind of abuse goes hand-in-hand with emotional and psychological abuse, it’s as simple as that.

    It pains me to see the extent of the fog abuse has created on society. We need to stop judging and assuming what we think went on and finally truly educate ourselves on what abuse is. We need to recognize it when we see it in front of us so that we can eventually stand up and say, “NO MORE!”

    Abuse, of all kinds, can happen to anyone. We need to wise up and bring abuse out of the fog it hides in.

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    • Yes, Lana. It’s so important. If it can happen to Christie Brinkley, a woman with family and support and fans across the globe, it can happen to anyone. It pains me that Matt Lauer would ask a mother how can she do this to her children, as if she had a choice or any control over her ex’s actions and abuse. Blaming the victim? We don’t do that. But as you mentioned, we need to clear the fog created by this kind of abuse. In my opinion, emotional abuse is bullying taken to the highest degree. People understand childhood bullying better these days and its consequences, but no one seems to be connecting the dots between bullying and domestic violence, particularly psychological abuse and manipulation.

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    • I had to watch the whole video to fully understand your reply and unfortunately I didn’t get to till just now because my internet was acting up last night.

      I have to say that I am truly outraged and almost rendered speechless. First at the fact that Matt Lauer pretty much berated her in front of the whole world through the way he was questioning her. Then secondly, at the fact that Peter Cook was questioned with almost some kind of sympathy. They have made their opinion about what they believe is going on apparent to the world and I can’t help but think that they know the effect of that. For them to get away with how they approached this whole thing is absolutely disgusting, and what makes it so much worse is that perhaps the majority of the people will take their side.

      And we wonder what our children are learning these days and from who.

      People seriously need to wise up. Ignorance should no longer be acceptable as an excuse. If one were to truly do their research and even just approach the topic with some kind of sensitivity, they would be able to get clearer, unmistakable answers.

      Bullying is a form of abuse. It is a tactic used to exert power and control over someone and when that happens, is it not abuse? Explaining abuse is quite simple, the difficulty lies with understanding and even more so, with comprehending the depth of its nature.

      I believe that Christie has not fully gotten the help that she needs to completely step out of the fog. She needs help to fully understand what it is that she has gone through, after watching the video again, I can’t help but think that she is still living within the fog.

      Lastly, I do apologize for my bit of ranting here in your blog, next time I will try to restrain myself.

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    • Don’t apologize. I learn from rants like this.

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  4. My ex is living with the woman he was living with when I met him. I reached out to her once, knowing what state she must be in after living with him for 16 years. I never heard back from her. But he knew I sent the message. I’m guessing he intercepted it. I sometimes think about calling her, setting up a lunch. But then I think I should just let it go, lest he suck me back in. I imagine she’s a lot like Christy. Broken down. It makes me sad.

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    • Do you think she would understand if you did sit down with her? I learned my lesson about reaching out the hard way. It mainly backfires and just makes me look like the crazy one. That’s why I keep writing the blog and reading others like yours: the message is reaching someone, even if it’s not the “someone” I intended it to reach.

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    • That’s it! Reaching out to someone, even it it’s not the “someone” we intended to reach. That helps ease the feeling of futility. Thank you!

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  5. My heart went out to Christy Brinkley and more than pained me. I very recently was “lucky” enough to receive the validation that my husband is a narcissist. For so many many years I thought I was going crazy. When I asked our marriage counselor if she thought that maybe he was BPD, she said “no, it’s narcissism”. I began to read about it, and it was as if a fog lifted immediately. I cried and cried…blamed myself, actually. As a spouse of a NPD husband, I couldn’t believe (although I could…as all of us who live or have lived with “it”) that I finally had an answer. But the answer doesn’t end the abuse, does it? We continue to deal with the abuser and those that ignorantly support them. Shame on you, Matt Lauer!

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    • I feel your pain in your comment. No, the abuse doesn’t end with the knowledge. But it does help to understand that you are not crazy, but that someone else is responsible for the manipulation of your mind into thinking you are crazy. (I’ve been there.) We just need to keep the stories front-and-center so there are less uninformed and ignorant people supporting them. Christie, I think, is suffering from PTSD as a result of her ex’s evilness. People understand PTSD. Maybe Matt should have done his research. 😦

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  6. Emotional abuse runs deeper than physical abuse more often than not. It takes so long before you realize this is even happening to you and when you do realize that you’re a victim, you have no idea of how to escape. That in itself is a torture to anyone. Finding your way out…is nothing short of a miracle.

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  7. Paula, thought of your post yesterday when I read this today:

    The Journey

    by Mary Oliver

    One day you finally knew
    what you had to do, and began,
    though the voices around you
    kept shouting their bad advice —
    though the whole house
    began to tremble
    and you felt the old tug
    at your ankles.
    “Mend my life!” each voice cried.
    But you didn’t stop.
    You knew what you had to do,
    though the wind pried
    with its stiff fingers
    at the very foundations
    though their melancholy was terrible.
    It was already late
    enough, and a wild night,
    and the road full of fallen
    branches and stones.
    But little by little,
    as you left their voices behind,
    the stars began to burn
    through the sheets of clouds,
    and there was a new voice,
    which you slowly
    recognized as your own,
    that kept you company
    as you strode deeper and deeper
    into the world,
    determined to do
    the only thing you could do —
    determined to save
    the only life you could save.

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  8. My heart breaks for her. If ALL of America isn’t outraged by this interview, I will be speechless. He owes her and every other victim a public apology.

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    • Absolutely! I don’t think many people see her as a victim, though. To most, she’s just a privileged woman who went through an ugly divorce. It’s clear that she has been battered emotionally. She can’t even think clearly when confronted by simple opposition. She couldn’t stand up for herself and say, “Stop, Matt. Let’s talk about Chicago. Okay?” I’ve seen other celebrities do it all the time. This woman’s spirit has been crushed and no one seems to care. The Today Show thinks it’s okay to keep crushing her. 😦

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    • You are absolutely right.

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